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Alisdair Malloy

Walk 31 Miles in May 2026

Help me reach my goal of £250

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I'm walking 31 Miles in May for Dementia UK

This May, I'm walking 31 Miles and raising funds to help ensure no family faces dementia alone. I'm taking on the challenge for Dementia UK, the specialist dementia nursing charity, and would be grateful for your support.

Your donation, big or small, makes a difference. £33 could fund a new dementia specialist Admiral Nurse to spend an hour helping a family in the community, offering practical solutions and emotional support to cope with their loved one’s distressed behaviour.

Thank you!

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The long goodbye

Thursday 23rd Apr
​Losing a loved one to dementia is a unique and profoundly difficult experience. Unlike other forms of loss, it is often described as a "long goodbye"—a slow, gradual departure that begins long before the final breath is taken.
​The Ambiguous Loss
​The grief associated with dementia is often "ambiguous." You find yourself mourning a person who is still physically present, but whose essence, personality, and memories are slowly fading. It is a complex emotional landscape where you may feel a blend of sorrow, frustration, exhaustion, and sometimes even guilt. You are constantly adjusting to new realities as the disease progresses, navigating a cycle of small, repeated losses.
​Honoring Their Legacy
​When the end finally comes, the grief can feel overwhelming, yet sometimes mixed with a strange sense of relief—not because the love has lessened, but because the struggle is over. It is important to remember:
​Your feelings are valid: Whether you feel relief, anger, deep sadness, or numbness, there is no "right" way to grieve.
​Focus on the moments, not the illness: In the quiet moments of reflection, try to hold onto the memories of who they were before the dementia, or even the small, meaningful connections you shared during their journey.
​Be gentle with yourself: Caring for someone with dementia is an act of immense love and sacrifice. Give yourself the time and space to heal.
​Finding Support
​You do not have to walk this path alone. Many organizations offer support groups specifically for those who have lost loved ones to dementia. Connecting with others who truly understand the unique nuances of this grief can be incredibly healing.
​Though the journey is painful, it is a testament to the depth of your bond. Their influence on your life remains, woven into your own story, even after the long goodbye has concluded.

Thank you to my Sponsors

£50

Lorna Dale

£33

Vanessa

All the best Ali, you’ll smash it

£20

Aimee

£20

Josh

£10

Anonymous

£10

Fiona Brown

Good for you Ali x

£10

Bev Birrell

WWAD !!! Go you

£10

Pauline Wright

Good luck & you will be amazing 👏

£5

C

Good luck!

£5

Kev

The walking will be easier than the Pars BEAT . You can walk with a clear mind and memories of the good times.

£5

Erin Pinkman

Good luck Alisdair ! Great cause to raise money for! X