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Rainbow’s Story: A Journey into Care and Compassion

Caring for others is one of the most rewarding career paths or volunteer opportunities available. For me, getting into care was deeply personal—it was shaped by my own experiences with my Grandad, who lived with Alzheimer's for 18 years. This journey not only influenced my career but also led me to take part in initiatives like the Dementia UK March Dog Walking Challenge, which allows me to raise awareness and support others affected by dementia.

My Personal Journey with Dementia

My Grandad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's when I was a young child, which meant he played a unique role in my upbringing. At first, I was too young to understand what was happening, but I always knew his warm, hearty laugh and wonderful sense of humor—he was always chuckling to himself. Grandad spent most of his time in his workshop, ‘pottering’ about doing jobs, and I have such fond memories of sitting in front of him by the fire, listening to his war stories from when he served in WW2 in the Navy.

It was when Grandad forgot my name that I started to understand something was different. I remember asking my Dad why Grandad called me 'young one' instead of 'Rainbow'… 'Grandad’s brain doesn’t work as well as it used to,' my Dad explained. Despite this, Grandad always greeted us with a smile and was excited to show us his latest invention. Known as the local inventor, he would often create pieces for those in the village.

As I grew older, I learned to adapt to a new version of my Grandad. I realized that the man who had once been the best storyteller and my hero wasn’t gone—he was just different. Sometimes, he didn’t recognize me, but that didn’t change how I felt about him. I learned that Dementia was stealing his memory, but not his heart.

Spending time with Grandad became a lesson in patience and understanding. When he repeated the same stories, I learned to listen like it was the first time, even though I had heard them countless times before. When he became frustrated or upset, I learned to offer comfort instead of expecting him to remember everything. We would sit and watch Dad’s Army on repeat for hours—it brought back his hearty chuckle.

As Grandad’s condition progressed, our relationship shifted. My Uncle was his main carer, and I would step in to provide respite. We would sit and build towers with building blocks, and he wouldn’t go anywhere without ‘Ted,’ a teddy bear he picked up in a local store and wouldn’t put down. So, Ted came with us everywhere!

At the time, I was working in care as a domiciliary carer, balancing my visits to clients with Dementia around caring for my Grandad. This experience fueled my passion for working in care—I wanted to ensure that others living with dementia, and their families, received the love, dignity, and support they deserved.

Looking back, I can see that growing up with a grandad living with Dementia and Alzheimer’s shaped me in ways I never expected. It taught me patience, the importance of embracing the present, and how to love without expectation. I learned that even when someone can no longer remember your name, they can still feel love. I also learned that it’s okay to grieve for what’s lost, even while celebrating the moments that remain.

Over the 18 years my Grandad lived with Alzheimer's, it may have stolen many things from him, but it never took the essence of who he was. The lessons I learned from him will stay with me for the rest of my life. It’s a reminder that love is not always about memory—it’s about connection, presence, and the ability to be there for each other, no matter what.

Why I Joined the Dementia UK March Dog Walking Challenge

This March, I decided to take part in the Dementia UK Dog Walking Challenge because I wanted to give back to a cause so close to my heart. I know firsthand the struggles that families go through, and I want to help ensure that others facing the same challenges receive the support they need.

1. To Raise Awareness and Funds: By participating, I can contribute to vital services that support individuals and families affected by dementia. Dementia UK’s Admiral Nurses provide expert guidance, and every step I take helps fund their essential work.

2. To Improve My Own Well-being: Walking is a fantastic way to boost physical and mental health. Not only does it keep me active, but it also provides a sense of accomplishment and helps me reflect on my Grandad’s journey.

3. To Bond with My Dog: My dog has been a great companion throughout this challenge. Not only does he love the extra walks, but he also brings a sense of comfort and joy—something I know my Grandad would have appreciated.

4. To Be Part of a Supportive Community: By signing up, I’ve joined a group of like-minded people who have also been touched by dementia. We share our progress, encourage each other, and work together towards a meaningful cause.

For me, participating in the Dementia UK March Dog Walking Challenge is more than just a fundraiser—it’s a tribute to my Grandad and everything he taught me. With every step I take, I reflect on the love, the lessons, and the memories we shared. Though he may not be here anymore, his presence is always with me, guiding me in my journey to support others who are facing the same challenges. This walk is my way of honouring him, carrying forward his spirit, and ensuring that his story—and the stories of so many others—are never forgotten.

Emma's Journey into Care: A Path of Compassion, Understanding, and Support

When my nan was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I made the decision to leave my job and dedicate myself fully to being by her side during her final weeks. The time we spent together was precious, and it was a period I’ll always cherish. But one of the most profound moments was when, even in those last days, my nan told me something I’ll never forget: “You should offer this care to other people. Don’t keep it just for me.”

It was a simple statement, but it changed the direction of my life. Even at the end of her journey, my nan was thinking of others, and those words stuck with me. I realized that this was more than just a personal experience. It was something I could share with the world, something that could help others who are going through similar struggles.

So, I began searching for a new path—a way to offer the care and compassion that my nan had inspired me to provide. That search led me to a life in care, a decision that has been both rewarding and humbling.

A Life in Care: More Than Just a Job

Caregiving isn’t just a job. It’s a calling. It’s about putting your whole self into what you do and offering care that is compassionate, understanding, and truly supportive. Every day, I meet people living with dementia, and I also work alongside their families who are navigating a diagnosis that can often feel overwhelming and unknown.

When I’m caring for someone, I carry my nan’s words with me. She encouraged me to share my heart, my time, and my energy with others—and that’s exactly what I do. Each client I meet, I offer not only care but empathy, understanding, and patience. Because I know firsthand how much a simple, kind gesture can mean during difficult times.

Supporting Families Living with Dementia

One of the most rewarding parts of my job is working alongside families who are supporting loved ones living with dementia. It’s not just the person diagnosed who needs help—often, the family is going through their own journey, trying to understand the diagnosis and how to best support their loved one. I help guide them, offering advice, emotional support, and a listening ear.

Dementia can be a lonely, confusing road for everyone involved, but knowing that there’s support available can make all the difference.

Why I’m Taking on the Dementia UK Dog Walking Challenge

As part of my commitment to supporting those living with dementia, I’m participating in the Dementia UK Dog Walking Challenge. This initiative helps provide much-needed resources and information for both those living with the condition and their families. It’s an opportunity to raise awareness, share vital resources, and offer support to people who need it most.

Every step I take in this challenge reminds me of the importance of connection, compassion, and understanding—values I carry with me from my nan’s final days to every client I meet today.

Ready, Set, Walk!